Song "Born To Love"

For me the message here is that -

Like so many others, Tasha was just an ordinary girl with a big heart.

She really was no different then her little sisters Crystal and Louise and her big brother Douglas. 

God bless, take care and have a great day.

Maria

Born To Love

May 8 2011

Words and Music by Kendra Bacso, Maria Stranaghan, and Talena Winters

                          G

When she was young, her mama said she’d adopt ev’ry cat and kid she found

                  C

And as she grew, she never changed, still had the biggest heart around

Em                  C                       G                      C

      Taken too young, she had one last gift to give

Em                     C              Am                D

      Taken from one to help seven others live

                        G         D        C                        G

When you’re born to love it just goes on and on

G          D                     C      D

    Even after you’re gone

G                        D            Em            C

    You’ll never know the lives you’ll touch

Am                  D           G

When you’re born to love

                 G

Ten years ago, the doctor said he would not be around for very long

                     C

Gave up his pills to teach guitar, sure that the gift was his swan song

Em                     C                    G                  C

      Teaching the kids, he gave all he had to give

Em                     C              Am                  D

     Making the most of the life he had to live

(Chorus)

           Em               C                 G

And each of us has got a life to live

Em                    C                           Dsus  D

Each of us has something we can give

                        G         D        C                        G

When you’re born to love it just goes on and on

G          D                     C      D

    Even after you’re gone

G                        D            Em            C

    You’ll never know the lives you’ll touch

Am                  D           Em    D

When you’re born to love

C                     D           G

When you’re born to love

Thanks to Talena  for adding the music notes to this song.

We were told - Tasha couldn't be a donor !

Donation was made possible!

 

How was donation possible?

 

The most important steps that made donation possible were - 

1.      Tasha told me of her wish to be an organ & tissue donor

2.     Emergency response teams did everything possible to try and save her life.

3.      Our family was asked about the possibility of donation - 

Please note -

 

During the early morning hours, when we were told that Tasha was dead, we were so filled with shock, pain and anguish that, our world stopped.

 

I must say in all honesty that, if my sister Helen had not called me to ask if we would consider donating Tasha’s organs, donation would not have taken place.

 

Important note –

  After the conversation with my sister, I was reminded of the conversation that Tasha had with me, expressing her wish– for us to donate all of her organs & tissues etc

 

Then, it is was after this call from my sister that, I called the doctor to tell him of Tasha's wish to be a donor. 

 

It was at that time that, I was told by that doctor that -

 

Quote - [Tasha had been dead to long therefore, she couldn't be an organ & tissue donor.]

 

Tasha becomes an organ & tissue donor!

It was due to the conversation, that Tasha had with me, that I begged the doctor to do everything that was humanly possible to make her wish come true.

 

It was one week after Tasha’s funeral that we received this letter from the BC transplant society.





Frequently Asked Questions

Frequently Asked Questions

1)        How do we get material?

a) You can purchase your green cotton/ broadcloth from any fabric store or you can recycle material that you may already have.

i)  Locally in (Peace River) material can also be purchased by contacting Maria Stranaghan – material is precut at $2.00 a meter (while quantities last)

2)        When doing the artwork, quotes and or messages can we only use paints or felt markers?

a)  Some individuals have asked if they can do

Beadwork, fabric appliques, quilted artwork etc.

You can use the art medium that is preferred but please let us know what it is and make sure to email a photo

3)        What color of fabric do we use

a) The color of the material should be the same color as the [TULIP Slick Leaf Green] fabric paint.

4)        WHAT TO DO - If your material- is not- this leaf green shade

a)                Try and use material that is as close to this color of Green if possible.

5)        What will be done with the banner after the Guinness World Book Attempt in 2013

a) Material to be auctioned off online to raise money for the

i)   Gift of Life Path and Arboretum &

ii) Peace River Hospital

b) We would like to make it possible for individuals to have 3 uses for the fabric segments

WLB - Limited Addition pieces used for-

Examples:

i)   artwork

ii) quilts

iii)       Designer Clothing and accessories 

1993 - Journey starts - on my knees.

1993 – Journey starts - On my knees – .

When I had to go up the stairs, at the town office for a town council meeting, on my knees, memories flood back to other times that I have been brought to my knees.

One on those memories was of how, I would kneel at Tasha’s grave site, weeping and wondering how I could go on. Wondering how any of us could go on without her in our lives.

Wondering how my husband, our other daughters Crystal and Louise and our son Douglas, would be affected by this loss?

Would our marriage survive, would our family survive, would we ever be o.k. again?

To this day, the pain of that time, is clear and real and with me still.

I think of that final day that, I knelt at her graveside, bent over in pain, with my head on my arms that were crossed over her headstone.

I recall how I wept; praying and asking Tasha for help, asking God for guidance, not knowing how to go on.

Then I remembered Tasha’s Wish, of Tasha asking me to also educate everyone about donation, of her telling me how important it was to her, for me to do this.

It was at that moment that, I made the decision that I would weep at her grave no more, that I had to move on.  I had to move on for the sake of my other children, my husband and for myself and Tasha.

As I got up from her grave, I was filled with strength and a determination to move on.

Then as I walked away on that day, I made a vow that someway, somehow I would do as she asked.

With that I also made final vow that when I had done everything in my power to fulfill her final wish that, on that day, I would come back to her grave and let her know that I had kept my promise.

Finally, with all of this, I believed that, if I could keep these vows, I would truly be the mother and the person she thought me to be.

God bless with best wishes -

Maria

One Year Ago - Town meeting

One year ago - Town meeting, asking for path to be dedicated to the cause.


Looking back it's hard to believe that it was just a year ago that I was getting ready to go to a town meeting to ask our town council if they could dedicate a part of the walking path in Peace River for the cause of organ and tissue donation.


During this time, I was also in a wheelchair due to shattering my ankle and breaking my leg on Feb 4th - after this happened, the doctors had to repair the damage done by putting in 2 plates, 12 pins, 5 screws and 36 staples. So the thought of going to a meeting was a bit daunting.


When I asked if there was a wheelchair access for me to attend the meeting, I was told no, therefore I had a bit of dilemma.

Should I go, would it be wise for me to go and how could I manage getting up those stairs to the town chamber? The answer was that I would have to crawl up those stairs!


The thought came to mind that crawling up stairs could be a bit embarrassing but if crawling is what I had to do then crawl I would!


First I had to call my dear friend Julie to ask her if she would drive me to the town meeting.


When we arrived she had to push my wheelchair through the piles snow to the town hall.When we got through the first set of doors, I started to crawled up those darn stairs while she carried my wheelchair.  (Yup, I must say that, I have some darn nice friends :-)

That being said I'm not sure which one of us had a more difficult time, me crawling or Julie carrying that darn chair behind me. (I have to chuckle, when I think of this.)


When I got through the doors the meeting was already in process and I went into the meeting on my knees!


Thus started this part of my journey that leads to the banner.


Maria.

Desire and belief

The idea for the banner promoting the cause of organ & tissue donation came from the desire and a belief;

1. The desire to, to pay tribute to all those that make donation possible.

2. The belief that the solution to the donor crisis in Canada is not in something that I could do, but it is in something we as individuals in my community and Country could do.

Therefore starts the journey for the banner.

Maria

Tasha's Note - the next 12 hours.

After Tasha passed away I found this note that she wrote to herself.

This note still tugs at my heart strings and brings tears to my eyes. 

It’s not easy looking at old photos that stir up past memories

 but for me I believe it’s a necessary step to help me grow and to move on.

 Best wishes Maria